Letters to Grief

A community ritual
To make space for grief together

Letters to Grief is an invitation to a community ritual - a gentle, safe space for anyone to honour what they’ve lost: a loved one, a friend, a pet, or even a version of themselves. Through the act of writing a letter to your grief, we give voice to what’s often left unsaid, making room for what is unfinished, what still matters, and the love that remains.

From December 2025 to March 2026, across Christmas, New Year, Lunar New Year, and Hari Raya Puasa, join us in navigating this season with honesty and compassion.

✉️ Write a letter to your grief. Together, let's make space for grief, love, and joy.

“Are we holding grief in memory of the loved one that we have lost, or are we denying ourselves joy because we have to? Why can't we just hold both lightly?”

- Ming Li Tan & Danica Banes: Podcast “Between Joy & Grief: the complexities of grief”

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How to get started

Option A :
Write on your own

This is a private, personal way to process grief at your own pace.

Step 1 : Read the writing guide here

Step 2 : In the comfort of your home or with a trusted circle write your own letter to grief.

Step 3 : Once you’ve written your letter to grief, choose one of the 3 ways below to release it

  • Tear, shred, keep it in your journal or place it somewhere meaningful

  • Place your Letter to Grief in an envelope and mark on the outside either:
    X – Do not open (we will dispose of them end Mar 2026)

    or
    O – Open and share (Letter will be scanned and uploaded on our website for others to read)

    Send it to:
    Letters to Grief c/o Life Review Ltd
    Privy Box No.920359
    Singapore 929292

    You have the option to include name and email or keep it anonymous

    • Upload a visual of the letter (words/drawings) OR

    • An audio/ video recording

    You can choose to leave your name or keep it anonymous.

    [Scroll down to upload]

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Option B: Join “Letters to Grief” Workshop

Letters to Grief workshop is a facilitated community ritual for anyone carrying unspoken feelings, whether it’s love left unsaid, lingering guilt or the ache of missing someone or a beloved pet.

Together with others during this holiday season, the session provides a safe space to slow down, breathe and put those emotions into words or drawings without judgement. Through quiet reflection, participants honour their grief, create space for it, and experience a sense of connection with others.

TWO workshops sessions are available

  • 24 Jan, Sat 10.30am to 12pm

  • 28 Mar, Sat 10.30am to 12pm

Book here

Share your Letter online

If you choose to share your letter online, your words may reach someone carrying their grief in silence, helping them feel a little less alone.
You can email your letter to letterstogrief@thelifereview.org OR use the form below
As a token of recognition and gratitude, an online badge will be email to you.

 Frequently Asked Questions

  • You can join by writing independently at home, or with family and friends. You can also attend one of the scheduled workshops listed. Focus on what feels like a safe space to reflect and express your grief.

  • You can choose to

    • keep it private or share with your friends/family

    • shred, bury or keep the letter in your journal

    • sent to the official “Letters to Grief” postbox. Do remember to mark: X for Do not open or O – Open and share. Send it to:
      Letters to Grief c/o Life Review Ltd
      Privy Box No. 920359
      Singapore 929292

    • Fill in the digital form and upload your letter, audio or video record

  • The markings are

    • X : Do not open - This means that we will not open your letter. They will be disposed off by end March 2026

    • O : Open and share - We will open the letter, scan and upload to our website for others to read to support their journey.

    If there are no markings, we will assume that we should NOT open the letter and will dispose of it accordingly

  • Yes. Anonymity is entirely your choice.
    You may include your name, email, or contact details if you wish, or choose to remain anonymous.

    While Life Review may share submissions in full or in part to support the wider community, we are committed to honouring personal boundaries. Any request for anonymity will always be fully respected in all shared materials.

  • No. Letters to Grief is a gentle, reflective practice created for the community to explore and express grief through writing. While we hold a compassionate and supportive space, it is not a form of therapy or clinical mental health support, and it is not a substitute for professional care. We do not assume responsibility for individual emotional outcomes.

    If you are experiencing intense grief, distress, or feel you may need additional support, we strongly encourage you to reach out to a licensed therapist or counsellor.

    For immediate support in Singapore, you may contact Mindline:
    📞 1711 (24 hours)
    💬 WhatsApp 6669 1771

  • The plan is to run the community ritual over the holiday period of Dec 2025 to Mar 2026, with the final disposal of the letters at the end of March.

    If there are requests to continue to offer this service, we will revisit this after March 2026.

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